We tend to focus on all the wrong things during our lifetimes. We think a lot about ourselves and how to make our lives better. We are very selfish, but we have occasional love interests that interrupt our fascination with ourselves. But typically we discover that the love interest primarily existed to satisfy our personal sexual needs.
I stopped having sex when I was 47 years old. I will be 70 in a few months. It wasn’t based on any religious epiphany or desire to prove myself worthy of anything. It was a simple decision not to have sex anymore. I decided that sex was not important, so I stopped cold turkey. I am fascinated with all the emphasis on types of sex available today. Society may claim that it has significant freedom to have sex with anybody or anyway desired, but I would argue that society is enslaved by this sexual free-for-all. It is an addiction no different than alcohol or drugs. I’m not campaigning for everybody to follow my lead and become abstinent; however, I feel extremely comfortable with my decision. You must make your own decision using your free will and conscience. A moderate sex life may be a great choice for you. It just wasn’t my choice.
I guess what I am saying is that having sex is just not that important and deciding to not have sex is really not important either. So, what is important? The critical thing is that you must maintain your freedom to make decisions. You must accept the consequences for all your bad choices. That is very important. And you must make the decisions… not your family or peers, but you. You must decide what is important during your life and how this may impact what happens after you die.
I believe that life is really not important, but the afterlife is the most important thing. So, I believe how we live our lives, which probably contributes greatly to our afterlife, is very important. And it is the things that I do during the rest of my life that should be more important than the things that I did or didn’t do earlier in life. Thus, it is not my past twenty plus years of abstinence, but it is my future acts of kindness to others without seeking or expecting something in return.
The best gauge for judging your future acts is to examine your motives. Would you have done these acts if nobody knew that you did them? It is like the judge who asked the accused: “Would you have returned the money if everybody still thought you took it and nobody would ever have known you returned it?” Unfortunately, most people would have to honestly say they would not. However, your actions should not feed your ego, but should instead, build your identification of who you are. And you should be like Jesus. Of course, this is an impossible task, but you should strive to come as close to the mark as humanly possible.
Negligence is failing to do that which a reasonable man would have done or would have avoided under the same or similar circumstances. We can substitute sin for negligence and find that 100% of us, including me, have committed hundreds, perhaps thousands of sins. With this heavy weight on us for bad acts committed during our lives, how can we ever get past that to what is really important? Well, you have to start with the fact that you are going to start today asking what Jesus would have done and then attempting to modify your behaviors so that you will become a better person. This is what is really important in life and also in the afterlife.
So, what do you think is really important? Is it prestige, power, intelligence, money, sex-drugs-rock’nroll, possessions? Most likely these items do not follow you into the afterlife. I honestly don’t know what awaits us at death’s door, but I would rather have my good acts to carry with me. That may be what is most important.